Welcome to the Blog for my book I've Been There...My Testimony of Hope.

This blog shares information and updates about my book I've Been There...A Testimony of Hope. It has links to the website for the book, Twitter, Facebook, YouTube Linked In and other relevant links.

My goal is to promote the idea that it is never too late to be great and to live our very best lives. If you find this message to your liking please share the information about the book with others.

Bright blessings,
Coralie



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My reasons for writing this book.

I decided to write this book because I once read that those who have had daunting challenges and overcome them have a moral duty to share their experiences.

In my earlier years I felt hopeless and helpless. When I found a way through everything life threw in my path and transformed my scars into stars my life became a testimony of hope. I offer my life experiences to others and hope it will remind them that it is not what happens to you that matters--but what you choose to do about it.

Bright blessings,

Coralie "Raia" Darsey-Malloy

About Me

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Manitou, Manitoba, Canada
First up...I wear many hats, literally and figuratively. I write professionally and along with my memoir I've Been There...My Testimony of Hope I have written a variety of books on healthy dynamic living. My hubs David and I have a personal development company called Fresh Beginnings. The website for the company is: www.fresh-beginnings.com David and I have been partners in life and business since 1990. We have no intention of retiring because we know that it is only work if you don't life it and we love what we do. The website for our personal development company Fresh Beginnings is: www.fresh-beginnings.com. We have a social network on Ning with the same name at www.freshbeginnings.ning.com the website for the book is www.ibtbook.com

Friday, September 25, 2015

This is What a Feminist Looks Like





What do America Ferrera, Larry David, and Amy Brenneman have in common? They're all proud to call themselves feminists.Celebrate Women's History Month with them and other feminists by watching the special This Is What A Feminist Looks Like video.

How to avoid gender stereotypes: Eleanor Tabi Haller-Jordan at TEDxZurich





Corporations across Europe share the same problem: a dramatic gender gap in leadership. Although the size of this gap varies from country to country, men far outnumber women in senior business leadership. What makes the most senior positions in business so inaccessible to women -- even in countries where there is considerable government and social support for gender equality? Senior women leaders across Western Europe tell us that gender stereotyping is an important barrier to consider; and our research supports it. While solutions are often sought through policy and engineered approaches, the real barriers to change may be much more personal and insidious. The companies that focus on tackling deep-seated bias and making their organizations safer for mavericks -- who are less concerned with fitting in and more on making a contribution -- may be the most effective in fixing the gender gap and, more critically, in business.



Eleanor Tabi Haller-Jorden has led Catalyst Europe since 2006, when it was established to work with corporate and academic members in Europe through thought-provoking events and programs that reflect the cultural diversity of the region. Under her direction, Catalyst Europe engages members and selects partners who are committed to developing creative solutions around organizational inclusion and innovation with the aim of being a learning lab that supports workplace innovation by practicing it. Apart from her European responsibilities, Eleanor Tabi Haller-Jorden holds a broader advisory role within Catalyst with a focus on developing the organization and its brand globally.



A frequent media contributor and lecturer (IMD, London School of Economics and Political Science, Yale School of Organization and Management, Columbia University Business School), Eleanor Tabi Haller-Jorden also sits on numerous boards. She is Chairperson of the The Humanity Initiative's Executive Board and Co-Chair of the Healthcare Businesswomen's Association (HBA) European Board. Other board appointments include: the EU's Steering Scientific Committee, Seventh Framework Programme, Meta-analysis for Gender and Science Research; the Academy of Business and Society and Öko-Institut's Advisory Board for the IMPACT initiative; and the Advisory Board of the Tosca Group Future of Organisations Consortium. Eleanor Tabi Haller-Jorden has been designated a European Thought Leader on behalf of IBM's Global Innovation Outlook initiative and showcased in Profiles in Diversity Journal. Most recently, she has been appointed as a Leadership Advisor for the Zurich chapter of Room to Read, a global organization focused on literacy and gender equality in education.



Before joining Catalyst Europe, Eleanor Tabi Haller-Jorden worked in cross-cultural talent management and strategic planning as the Managing Director of the Paradigm Group. Prior to that, she was Founder and Director of the Public Policy Center in Philadelphia. She is also a former Vice President of the Advisory Services group at Catalyst. She attended Princeton University as an advanced standing scholar and Bryn Mawr College, where she earned her A.B. magna cum laude in history. She earned her M.Sc. in Industrial Relations from the London School of Economics and Political Science. Eleanor Tabi Haller-Jorden is a single mother of two boys and an avid windsurfer. In her spare time, she is a performance poet—an entertainer who creates poetry onstage—and has performed in Zurich, Oslo, and London. She is the owner of the Living Gallery, a virtual art space and gallery in Switzerland.



In the spirit of ideas worth spreading, TEDx is a program of local, self-organized events that bring people together to share a TED-like experience. At a TEDx event, TEDTalks video and live speakers combine to spark deep discussion and connection in a small group. These local, self-organized events are branded TEDx, where x = independently organized TED event. The TED Conference provides general guidance for the TEDx program, but individual TEDx events are self-organized.* (*Subject to certain rules and regulations)

Gender Roles in Society

Monday, December 24, 2012

Celtic Woman - Amazing Grace


This is among my favorite inspirational music choices. In my life I've been blessed with many miracles through shifts in consciousness and my spiritual development..and I truly feel they are to...Amazing Grace.

Top Tracks for Sarah McLachlan (playlist)




In my book I've Been There...A Testimony of Hope I share how I struggled to be the Perfect Girl in my youth and failed miserably. Now I know that perfection is an illusion and when we try to be something other than we are we never really belong. I love Sarah McLcLachlan and the powerful lyrics in her music resonate for may of the walking wounded among us.

Lyrics:
Am I faithful, am I strong, am I good enough to belong
in your reverie a perfect girl
Your vision of romance is cruel and all along I played the fool
all you expectations bury me
Chorus:
Don't worry you will find the answer if you let it go
give yourself some time to falter
But don't forgo knowing that you're loved no matter what
and everything will come around in time
I own my insecurities I try to own my destiny
That I can make or break it if I choose
But you take my words and twist them 'round
'til I'm the one who brings you down
Make me feel like I'm the one to blame for all of this...
Chorus
You need everybody with you on your side
Know that I am here for you but I hope in time
You'll find yourself alright alone
You'll find yourself with open arms
You'll find yourself you'll find yourself in time
The riot in my heart decideds to keep me open and alive
I have to take myself away from you
'cause I can't compete I can't deny there's nothing that I didn't try
how did I go wrong in loving you

Short Documentary on Electro Convulsive Therapy 'Out of Mind'



This is an excellent documentary about Electro Convulsive Therapy and the experiences portrayed here are akin to some of what I write about in my book and what I witnenessed in the hospitals I was in. It is not for the faint of heart and it is still happening today. I know it works for some patients but in my case it was not an effective course of treatment and that is why after my medical records that confirm that I had 129 before they finally stopped. I accept that when I went through this in the early sixties psychiatry was a still a new speciality but all my years in and out of mental wards they only looked at the symptoms...not the root causes. I healed and become whole, healing, strong and healthy when I took the whole person approach as I discuss in my book. Check the website at www.ibtbook.com. As with this woman I lost touch with who I was and all the past social structures were also wiped out. I had to start from the bottom and work my way back up and I have. That is where I was...and where I am and My Testimony of Hope.

Sarah McLachlan - Fear (live) HQ




I lived within fear-based realities for years. I was released from FEAR when I realized the only thing I had to fear...was fear itself. The entangling mindtrips I put myself through were perceptions and beliefs I gave into. Once I realized that and started taking my power back it dissolved and I was free from fear once and for all. Most of what we fear never happens and living in the NOW of our experiences keeps whatever the future holds at bay and the past a distant memory.
No matter what the injustice...never allow a person or system to silence you into a submission. Never submit, give up, or not fight for your right to be heard or your right to expose the truth. Never accept a deal or situation that devalues and silences your voice and alters your souls journey! Stand up and fight for the truth!"~ L.E.Shaefer
"Both abundance and lack exist simultaneously in our lives, as parallel realities. It is always our conscious choice which secret garden we will tend… when we choose not to focus on what is missing from our lives but are grateful for the abundance that’s present – love, health, family, friends, work, the joys of nature and personal pursuits that bring us pleasure – the wasteland of illusion falls away and we experience heaven on earth."~Sarah Ban Breathnach ....."I do not fix problems. I fix my thinking. Then problems fix themselves."
~Louise Hay

"Answer" - Sarah Mclachlan



After going through so many personal problems throughout life I am grateful for all those who offered their love, care and support and became "my answer" to prayers I sent up for direcion and support. Letting go is the most difficult task a human being will ever undertake. It isn't unique to any one individual. We will all someday have to face it; some of us in old age, others during adolescence. Regardless, the challenge is still there, because to live is to love and to love is to hope. I have never met people with more hope than those suffering from cancer. I have never met people with more courage. They understand the seemingly paradoxical truth that pain is a part of the happiness- an integral part. Please take this film as a token of my love and admiration.

God Bless,

Alicia Keys - Brand New Me




I went through so many transformations from when I was "there" to where I am now. Each one has created and continues to create "a brand new me." It is the same story for all of us...if we are doing our work, growing our soul and making our passions happen. When we allow ourselves to grow and change the courage it takes to take risks and move beyond our comfort zones but the rewards are worth it. This I know for SURE. This is my testimony of hope and I share it in my book. For more information check out the website at www.ibtbook.com

Magic in Music Videos (playlist)



You Find Yourself Alone, Sometimes
Without A Home, No Protection
You Don't Know Which Way To Go
You're Lost, No Direction
Then, Suddenly, Out Of The Blue
Some Kind Of Magic Comes To You
You Don't Know How, You Don't Know Why
But Someday Gonna Take Off, Fly
Fly, Fly, Fly...
Make A Wish, Wish, Make A Wish, Wish
My Wish Would Be
(Chorus)
To Be Free
To Be Wild
And To Be
Just Like A Child
And If I Get Lost
I Really Don't Mind
Cos' I'm Me (Free)
Doing Just Fine
(To Be Free)
You're Out In The Cold, Sometimes
As Far As You Can See, Misty
You Want To Run, Into The Sun
The Road Is Lost, Sand, Shifty
Suddenly, Out Of The Blue
Some Kind Of Magic Pushes You Through
You Don't Know When, How, Or Why
But Someday Gonna Take Off, Fly
Fly, Fly, Fly...
And If I Had A Wish
My Wish Would Be
(Repeat Chorus Three Times)
Just Like A Child
I Really Don't Mind
Cos' I'm Free,
Doing Just Fine

Friday, April 27, 2012

The Art of Living is a process of letting go and holding on



All the art of living lies in a fine mingling of letting go and holding on.
-- Havelock Ellis








I've'Been There...A Testimony of Hope has a lot of recurring themes about being able to let go. I am going through another phase of that as I get closer to the launch date of the book with each passing day. There has been a lot of time, energy, revisiting and releasing each time I have editing the book and re-read it. When I think of handing it over to the publisher and then giving it over to Source to outwork where it goes from that point it is also calling me to "let go and let God/Goddess" take it whee its meant to go.

Letting is one of the hardest lessons in life. In life, there's many things that we have to learn to let go. We have to let go of situations, things, memories, people and even ourselves. It's easy to form an attachment to people and things. When you've formed an attachment to people and things, it can be a very painful experience and feeling when you realized that it's time to let go. Even the mere thought of not having that person or thing in your life just squeezes your heart in pain. However, there are times where you or that person has changed to the extent that it's necessary to let go of the relationship or friendship, so that each of you can fulfill your life path.



When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.
-- Lao Tzu


Letting go of your past and memories are also extremely hard. Even though old memories can be tormenting, yet you might hold on to the past and refuse to move forward. However, by refusing to let go of the painful past, it'll serve as a roadblock to love.Releasing the  old self opens the way for a new you emerge can be one of the scariest experiences in your life. But by leaving behind your old self and taking a leap of faith into the unknown, it might just reveal what you are truly capable of becoming. With the depth of what we share at Fresh Beginnings I know that each of us are varying stages of having to change things we may be reluctant to do...or let go of people and events that are no longer healthy. I wanted to share these ideas with you as I finish up the final edits and prepare to let the book go to its natural completion.




Let go. Why do you cling to pain? There is nothing you can do about the wrongs of yesterday. It is not yours to judge. Why hold on to the very thing which keeps you from hope and love?
-- Leo Buscaglia











Wednesday, April 25, 2012

Telling the Inner Critic to put a sock in it!



My father’s mouth twists in a snarling expression as dark foreboding eyes spit sparks of rejection that sting the very essence of my being.  The volcanic intensity of his energetic eruption sears into my spirit and I recoil within in a futile attempt to reduce the impact of his diminishing words.  “Create—all you ever want is the time and money to create—create what?  You can’t make a living creating—you’re just lazy—you don’t want to work—you never finish anything—grow up-- take some responsibility!  Quit all your day-dreaming and get a real job—you’ll never amount to anything creating—it’s bloody well ridiculous!! Then he’d mutter a few more indistinguishable words as he stormed away leaving me feeling as fractured as Humpty Dumpty after his fall—with no Kings’ horses or men to put me back together again.

I loved my father and desperately wanted his love, approval and acknowledgement—but after a lifetime of trying to measure up I never succeeded.       Little did I know then how his rejection of my basic essence would warp things and lead me down a path that was fuelled by a desire to be perceived as responsible, productive, and hard-working and most certainly a finisher—at all cost.  Without really understanding the process a rift began to develop between what was authentic for me and things I needed to compensate for as a result of my father’s rejection.  Through time the chasm grew.




 I began to develop an identity around outwardly driven goals of image-management that were fuelled by the urges of a harsh inner critic to whom I never measured up.  In contrast the whisperings of my inner spiritual world had creative urges that sought expression.  When for fleeting moments I’d tune into that inner space it felt graceful, inventive and teeming with possibility.  Unfortunately those creative urges were quelled by outwardly driven motivators.  There was a greater need to prove to my father, the world and myself that I was not the inadequate, irresponsible wing-nut Dad said I was.

A mind-trap developed and it drove me hard.  There were some pay-offs though and I often found myself basing in accolades from others.   I interpreted their comments about not having an off-switch—or being the energizer bunny and laughingly saying they wanted to remove my batteries as proof that I wasn’t some idiosyncratic misfit.  Their comments fed ego-driven needs that pushed me onwards and upwards.  The ‘busy-ness syndrome’ became a way of life and helped keep the inner critic at bay.   Through time the incongruities of living within a house divided began to create a variety of health problems.

 Feeling burdened by inadequacy and living an inauthentic life led to the development of   two eating disorders.  Patterns of compulsive coping alternated between self-starvation (anorexia nervosa) and binge/purge cycles of bulimia and laxative abuse.     Long muffled signals of what it felt like to feel unencumbered, free, happy became distant echoes for over thirty years.   Other times feelings of fear, dissatisfaction and inadequacy engulfed me completely.   Other times the ‘busy-ness’ would cause  my body to rebel and the only way it could  preserve itself and slow me down was to create illnesses or accidents.   Even then I could not relax and truly let go—my mind was so locked into driven, self-punishing workaholism that it never left room for sustained periods of inner peace and after a series of setbacks I developed fibromyalgia.  That turned out to be one of my greatest life lessons because it had such a slowing effect that it allowed to realize I was searching for something and I began to look for new ways to increase my spiritual bandwidth.

Somewhere along the path I had rejected most forms of organized religion because my mind could not reconcile the gaping discrepancies that were (in my opinion) too blatantly obvious for any thinking, questioning person to ignore.  I wanted a relationship with a different kind of Deity—one that was available every moment of every day and one that could provide a more compassionate lens for me to view my life.  That was not what I found within many pious pulpits.  After many health challenges I began to look for a spiritual life rather religiousness formulated only on the outer and perceptions of human thinking.




 Even though my busy mind kept waking hours jammed to the point of bursting there were more frequent connections breakthroughs to what I knew was a Higher Power.  During those times I’d feel calmer and was kinder and gentler towards others.  In a similar feel there were some really special moments where my creative urges would return and so would my bliss.  But those times were short-lived.  The hard-wired imprinting of my youth would re-activate the negative areas of my brain and the old groove would become a vacuous trap that would suck me back into deep feelings of inadequacy about not being productive—and therefore not good enough.  The mind-trap of busy-ness that had become a distinct personal identifier took years to transform.  But the interesting part of it all was that my personal challenges and healing journey led me on a quest and that allowed me to create a successful career as a life coach, group leader and free-lance writer.

Eventually I developed enough awareness to see that the inner saboteur was making it difficult to take care of body and my whole self and I began to find ways to re-frame my thinking and as I changed my beliefs—my outer life changed as well.   After recovering memories of sexual abuse I was able to overcome both two eating disorders and live a more balanced, fulfilling life.  As I healed and became more whole I met the love of my life and married for the second time.   My relationship with David created a safe haven for what at times felt like a bedraggled body and spirit.  With his encouragement, love and support I began to see things differently.   During the times my driver would come back in full force David would create peaceful pauses by gently asking—“When is enough ever going to be enough for you? As I watch you it is clear that you never take any real pleasure in your accomplishments—you just finish something—then barely pause to enjoy anything before saying---NEXT!    You are a fiercely creative and a very original thinker—yet you reject the very essence of who you are and what you do.  Can’t you see that you are treating yourself and your achievements the same way your father did?”



One would think that kind of feedback would be an epiphany and clang a chord that evoked instantaneous change—but it didn’t happen that way for me.  As with most growth processes change comes by taking three steps forward, two steps back then three steps forward until we make lasting changes.  It took awhile, but positive reinforcement   from David and trusted gal pal Carole eventually allowed me to erase the previous programming and I came to accept that nothing in life is as high-stakes as I once believed After years of white-knuckle, nail-biting challenges   I now have a ‘so what’ attitude and no longer feel any need to justify I how I choose live.  By choosing to stop worrying about other people’s perceptions it is easier to follow my own Loadstar.

That attitude allowed me to slow down and write a 500 page manuscript about my healing journey and spiritual development.  I’ve Been There—A Testimony of Hope  www.ibtbook.com is now circulating to various publishers and although I look forward to seeing it in print in 2012. It will be another visual reminder  that will assist me in  erasing my father’s opinion  that I am not a ‘finisher.’  The ripple effect of that inner knowing has allowed me to become more capable, responsible and discerning than I ever dreamed possible.  Being able to accept that my quirks, flaws and eccentricities are a viable aspect of what makes me unique   has finally silenced that harsh voice from the past that contributed to inner and outer chaos.  

Repeated exposure to any emotional state creates coping patterns that can be healthy or unhealthy.  Within my own life I learned that the better I feel---the better I feel.   The old continuum has found a different path to follow and the momentum continually contributes to improved health, increased well-being and a more balanced lifestyle.

 It is a far cry from the fragmented, disjointed, dissociated way I once lived.   Once I grew tired of feeling entrapped within my ‘personal displeasure centers’ my intention to change created a positive ripple effect.  I built upon the original desire for change by opening myself to the love and support of my partner David, having some and holding firm to the decision leave old self-perceptions behind live a more authentic life.

 Thankfully with practice and persistence it became easier to reveal more of who I really am.   That has created a sense of solidarity between my inner landscape and outer activities.   At long last it is possible to respect and honor my inner self and she is now open enough to hear whispers from that All-knowing voice within and it is more powerful than anything my father said and that awareness phased out the busy-ness syndrome that had defined me for the earlier part of my life and now I am free to live a more conscious life, centered life on my own terms!

Tuesday, April 24, 2012

The story of the rebirth of eagles is inspiring!




This is a story of an Eagle, on how to survive and live, it undergoes a drastic change to live for 70 long years.
The first time I watched this video I was moved to tears. It is such a powerful reminder of how, when we push beyond our limitations life can transform.

It takes power, strength and determination to move out beyond surviving to thriving. Whether it is a butterfly transforming from the journey through the cocoon to flight or an eagle if we keep on keeping on we are are to fly high and free with our own wings.

Never give up in life. Change is what helps you to be successful and grow. This you tube video is a metaphor to learn how you can have a re-birth at the age of 40 and start a new life again..! Great Motivational Clip and an Inspirational video.. For more motivational videos and soft skills ppt check my website http://shabbarsuterwala.com/resources







Saturday, April 21, 2012

The Parable of the butterfly





A man found a cocoon of a butterfly. One day a small opening appeared. He sat and watched the butterfly for several hours as it struggled to force its body through that little hole.

Then it seemed to stop making any progress. It appeared as if it had gotten as far as it could, and it could go no further.

So the man decided to help the butterfly. He took a pair of scissors and snipped off the remaining bit of the cocoon.

The butterfly then emerged easily. But it had a swollen body and small, shriveled wings.

The man continued to watch the butterfly because he expected that, at any moment, the wings would enlarge and expand to be able to support the body, which would contract in time.

Neither happened! In fact, the butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling around with a swollen body and shriveled wings. It never was able to fly.

What the man, in his kindness and haste, did not understand was that the restricting cocoon and the struggle required for the butterfly to get through the tiny opening were God's way of forcing fluid from the body of the butterfly into its wings so that it would be ready for flight once it achieved its freedom from the cocoon.

Sometimes struggles are exactly what we need in our lives. If God allowed us to go through our lives without any obstacles, it would cripple us.

We would not be as strong as what we could have been. We could never fly!

I asked for Strength.........And God gave me Difficulties to make me strong.

I asked for Wisdom.........And God gave me Problems to solve.

I asked for Prosperity.........And God gave me Brain and Brawn to work.

I asked for Courage.........And God gave me Danger to overcome.

I asked for Love.........And God gave me Troubled people to help.

I asked for Favors.........And God gave me Opportunities.

I received nothing I wanted ........And everything I needed!








Psychology of Emotion, Recovery, Wellness, Awareness in the Healing Process


Psychology of Emotion, Recovery, Mental Wellness and Health



Dr. John Breeding gives you the four secrets to dealing with mental health issues and how to help other people achieve mental wellness.


The first law of transformation is acceptance within the Hero's Journey. The process of withdrawal, initiation and return. We all have to go through periods of  'madness' where we withdraw from the world to go through an inner transformational change. Depression is a withdrawal from the world and it often necessary that needs to be allowed. In mythological teaching we withdraw and come into ways of thinking and being that we could never have seen or experienced without it.


Don't confuse transformational process as mental illness or a mental disorder such as depression or bipolar. This video contains comments on re-evaluation counseling and emotional release.

Each experience when dealt in a fair way for our soul,
completes a transformation that is needed in our growth.

When thinking about our purpose on earth,
I was given thoughts of science to understand spirituality.






Transformation...A tribute to the butterfly within each of us


How a ball of energy is in relation to it's surroundings.

So are we....How energy acts/ reacts.....So do we.

How energy moves.
So do we.

We move in spirals thus creating different levels. Moving also means leaving or changing locations,
or simply changing one's way of thinking.
Any quest or lesson is fulfilled leaves no void to get filled.
Nothing holds us back,  if not a part of us is left behind.

So when you view it all on the soul level
and accept it as lessons learned
it makes the journey easier.

We all undergo change.
It is the way we view or perceive it
that varies.


Music "Exultation" by Amethystium.

Exultation means jubilation.
What a befitting music indeed.
Befitting for the knowledge received through
yet another strange circumstances.









The parallel between the metamorphosis of the butterfly & the evolution of human consciousness



This little art video attempts to illustrate a parallel between the metamorphosis of the butterfly and the evolution of consciousness of humans. We are reaching critical mass.

"When a caterpillar reaches a certain point in its own evolution, it becomes over-consumptive, a voracious eater and it eats everything in sight.

At that same time, in the molecular structure of the caterpillar, the "imaginal cells" become active.

While all this gorging is going on, those 'imaginal' cells wake up, and they look for each other inside of the caterpillar's body.

When enough of them connect (they don't need to be in the majority) they become the genetic directors of the future of the caterpillar.

At that point the other cells begin to putrefy and become what's called the nutritive soup—out of which the 'imaginal' cells create the absolute unpredictable miracle of the butterfly.

What's possible is that we are the "imaginal cells" on the planet right now."

Inspired by Elisabet Sahtouris








Butterflies...they are beautiful with so much to teach us about living free!





Butterflies Are Free

by
John Welcher
innocent from the beginning, never knowing a hateful thought
slowly shedding their skin, a moment of wistful beauty is caught
escaping into subtle softness, as they prepare for first flight
naive notions of contentment, only a poetic glimpse of this sight

Rrandom fluttering takes place, no apparent rhyme or a reason
searching longing for the right path, journeys into all of the seasons
meeting others of their kind, tho none seem to spark an interest
singular thoughts keeping apart, feelings of love still very listless....

Traveling so very far, sharing their splendor with all that they meet
brief glances of their beauty, images that make us stop and think
wondering why they are there, wonderment of the time they have spent
knowing them only for that moment, their departure so very imminent.

Maybe there is no explanation, their behavior just for them to realize
simple life for a simple creature, is plenty for them to memorize
timeless beings always in our hearts, forever there so the mind can see
graciously flying into their own world, knowing that they are free.







Friday, April 20, 2012

Hope and inspiration for everyone who didn't or doesn't know their own strength with Whitney Houston's lyrics and words



There are many who have read my good that question how I made it through. There were many times I did not know my own strength and though I wouldn't be able to make it through...but I did. My message is that if one of us can do it...then we all can. Just as the lyrics say...I lost touch with my soul and had no where to turn.

Through it all I found hope in my heart, I found the light to life and my way out of the dark and so can YOU. Anything we conceive and believe we can achieve as long as we don't give up before the miracle happens.

LYRICS:


Lost touch with my soul
I had no where to turn
I had no where to go
Lost sight of my dream,
Thought it would be the end of me I
I thought I'd never make it through
I had no hope to hold on to, I
I thought I would break

I didn't know my own strength
And I crashed down, and I tumbled
But I did not crumble
I got through all the pain
I didn't know my own strength
Survived my darkest hour
My faith kept me alive
I picked myself back up
Hold my head up high
I was not built to break
I didn't know my own strength oh

Found hope in my heart,
I found the light to life
My way out of the dark
Found all that I need
Here inside of me oh
I thought I'd never find my way
I thought I'd never lift that weight
I thought I would break

I didn't know my own strength
And I crashed down, and I tumbled
But I did not crumble
I got through all the pain
I didn't know my own strength
Survived my darkest hour
My faith kept me alive
I picked myself back up
Hold my head up high
I was not built to break
I didn't know my own strength

There were so many times I
Wondered how I'd get through the night I
Thought I took all that I could take

I didn't know my own strength
And I crashed down, and I tumbled
But I did not crumble
I got through all the pain oh
I didn't know my own strength
Survived my darkest hour
My faith kept me alive
I picked myself back up
I Hold my head up high
I was not built to break
I didn't know my own strength
I was not built to break
NO NO
I got to know my own strength.






CELEBRATING EMPOWERED WOMEN







THE EMPOWERED WOMAN

The Empowered Woman, she moves through the world
with a sense of confidence and grace.
Her once reckless spirit now tempered by wisdom.
Quietly, yet firmly, she speaks her truth without doubt or hesitation
and the life she leads is of her own creation.

She now understands what it means to live and let live.
How much to ask for herself and how much to give.
She has a strong, yet generous heart
and the inner beauty she emanates truly sets her apart.
Like the mythical Phoenix,
she has risen from the ashes and soared to a new plane of existence,
unfettered by the things that once that posed such resistance.

Her senses now heightened, she sees everything so clearly.
She hears the wind rustling through the trees;
beckoning her to live the dreams she holds so dearly.
She feels the softness of her hands
and muses at the strength that they possess.
Her needs and desires she has learned to express.
She has tasted the bitter and savored the sweet fruits of life,
overcome adversity and pushed past heartache and strife.

And the one thing she never understood,
she now knows to be true,
it all begins and ends with you.
And WE are the POWER is this ever changing world

When you stop trying to force things to happen, and instead allow them to gently unfold, then your life will fall into place.

A woman in harmony with her spirit is like a river flowing.
She goes where she will without pretense and arrives at her  prepared to be herself and only herself.
Maya Angelous


A video to inspire and motivate you when you're feeling low. The beauy of Alicias voice and poetic lyrics coupled with images of other women who have inspired confidence  through their actions,  roles they  or a song they have sung help to inspire a sense of empowerment.








Celebrating the lives of those we love beyond the loss


The anniversary date of my  mother's passing is April 20th and David and choose to celebrate her life rather than focusing on our loss. My mother raised me with the belief that the spirit of loved ones lives on and I definitely feel her essence around me today. I inherited my love of butterflies and their spiritual representation of transformational change. We have already seen butterflies in our garden and I know that is Mom's way of letting us know she is doing fine and flying high and free.

So friends as we head to another weekend let's remember that through good times and difficult ones everything has a beginning, middle and end and everything changes. May we be mindful of that and as we struggle through our cocoon phases that eventually we will grow, emerge and eventually get our wings.

Here is the last photo of my Mom on her birthday on Christmas Day. David and I knew her time was drawing near and took this picture to remind us that she was close to getting her spirit wings...and that she has.



I hope you will listen to this song and let your spirit soar.
Love, light and bright blessings to all...we have all had to release those we love to other realms.



(Chorus)

To Be Free
To Be Wild
And To Be
Just Like A Child

And If I Get Lost
I Really Don't Mind
Cos' I'm Me (Free)
Doing Just Fine

(To Be Free)
You're Out In The Cold, Sometimes
As Far As You Can See, Misty
You Want To Run, Into The Sun
The Road Is Lost, Sand, Shifty

Suddenly, Out Of The Blue
Some Kind Of Magic Pushes You Through
You Don't Know When, How, Or Why
But Someday Gonna Take Off, Fly
Fly, Fly, Fly...

And If I Had A Wish
My Wish Would Be

(Repeat Chorus Three Times)

Just Like A Child
I Really Don't Mind
Cos' I'm Free,
Doing Just Fine


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There can be miracles...when you believe

Early in life I had a miracle when I survived the polio epidemic and came through it without any lasting effects. My story I've Been There...my Testimony of Hope has a lot of inexplicable events that are in my perceptions...miracles. I believe they come through a shift in consciousness where we open our whole selves to receive the best life has to offer.

When we conceive and believe...we can achieve. The video and lyrics to a song when you believe by Whitney Houston and Mariah Carey eloquently express how prayer, an open hopeful heart can move mountains and turn dreams into realities.

In our work with clients we encourage them to set their sights high and never give up until the miracles occurs.







LYRICS =

Many nights we prayed
With no proof anyone could hear
In our hearts a hopeful a song
We barely understood
Now we are not afraid
Although we know there's much to fear
We were moving mountains
Long before we knew we could

There can be miracles
When you believe
Though hope is frail
Its hard to kill
Who knows what miracles
You can achieve
When you believe
Somehow you will
You will when you believe

Mariah:

In this time of fear
When prayer so often proves in vain
Hope seems like the summer bird
Too swiftly flown away
Yet now I'm standing here
My hearts so full, I cant explain
Seeking faith and speaking words
I never thought Id say

There can be miracles
When you believe (Whitney: When you believe)
Though hope is frail
Its hard to kill (Whitney: Mmmmmhhh)

Whitney and Mariah:
Who knows what miracles

Mariah:
You can achieve (Whitney: You can achieve)
When you believe
Somehow you will

Whitney and Mariah:
You will when you believe

They don't always happen when you ask
And its easy to give in to your fear
But when you're blinded by your faith
Can't see your way clear through the rain
A small but still resilient voice
Says hope is very near

There can be miracles (Miracles)
When you believe
Though hope is frail
Its hard to kill
Who knows what miracles
You can achieve
When you believe somehow you will
Somehow you will
You will when you believe
When you believe

Song........ When You Believe
From.........The Prince of Egypt
Sung By.. Mariah Carey and Whitney Houston.





The importance of attitude




The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company... a church... a home.

The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past... we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you... we are in charge of our attitudes.

This life is what you make it. No matter what, you're going to mess up sometimes, it's a universal truth. But the good part is you get to decide how you're going to mess it up. But just remember, some come, some go. The ones that stay with you through everything - they're your true best friends. Don't let go of them. Also remember, sisters make the best friends in the world.

As for lovers, well, they'll come and go too and a number of them will   be heart-breakers break  but you can't give up because if you give up, you'll never find your soul mate. You'll never find that half who makes you whole and that goes for everything.


Just because you fail once, doesn't mean you're going to fail at everything. Keep trying, hold on, and always, always, always believe in yourself, because if you don't, then who will? So keep your head high, keep your chin up, and most importantly, keep smiling, because life's a beautiful thing and there's so much to smile about.


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Thursday, April 19, 2012

Remembering to count our blessings in an attitude of gratitude

There was a blind girl that hated herself because she was blind.  She hated everyone except her loving boyfriend.  He was always there for her.  She told her boyfriend, "If I could see the world, I'd marry you."  One day someone donated a pair of eyes to her.  When the bandages came off, she was able to see everything, including her boyfriend.  He asked her, "Now that you can see the world, will you marry me?"  The girl looked at her boyfriend and saw that he was blind.  The sight of his closed eyelids shocked her.  She hadn't expected that.  The thought of looking at him for the rest of her life led her to refuse to marry him.  Her boyfriend left her in tears and days later wrote a note to her saying, "Take good care of your eyes, my dear, for before they were yours, they were mine." This is how the human brain often works when our status changes.  Only a very few remember what our life was like before, and who was always by their side in the most painful situations.


Today before you say an unkind word -- Think of someone who can't speak.  Before you complain about the taste of your food -- Think of someone who has nothing to eat.  Before you complain about your husband or wife -- Think of someone who's crying out to God for a companion.  Today before you complain about life -- Think of someone who went too early to heaven.  Before you complain about your children -- Think of someone who desires children but they are barren.  Before you argue about your dirty house someone didn't clean or sweep -- Think of the people who are living in the streets.  Before whining about the distance you drive -- Think of someone who walks the same distance with their feet.  And when you are tired and complain about your job -- Think of the unemployed, the disabled, and those who wish they had your job.  But before you think of pointing the finger or condemning another -- Remember that it is not our place to judge others.



And when depressing thoughts seem to get you down -- put a smile on your face and thank Creator that you're alive because it can end when you least expect it. Lamenting the past or projecting into the future takes away from the beauty and blessings within the now of the moment. Everything has a beginning and middle and end and after each one comes another chance for a bright, fresh beginning.







Dedicated to the love of my life David Malloy...Because you love me... I've Been There is out there!

This video is dedicated to the love of my life David Malloy.


We are partners in life and business and have been in  our Sacred Partnership since we met on July 15th 1990. When we met it was one of those ...love and first connect. I had called David about computers and when we started talking by phone the magic was there. We have faced and worked through numerous personal, health and financial challenges but we made it through because to quote David we have the  'power of us.' When we met we knew early on that we wanted to go into business together and we have. We developed a personal development company called Fresh Beginnings www.fresh-beginnings.com  and continually promote the idea that anyone can create one at any stage of life.











David is my rock and my life with him is my greatest blessing. He believes in me when I do not believe in myself and always helps me become a better person...because he loves me. David has an amazing ability to remain positive and helps me make lemon out of lemonade whenever we hit rocky patches and I feel like things are overwhelming. He is my Sweetie and I love and respect him as my soul mate, best friend, lover, companion. His love and belief in me has helped me in my healing and spiritual journey and I would not be the person I am without his shining example of unconditional love and respect.



 With David's gentleness and strength I learned to put the past behind me and live in the now of our shared experiences. His respect for all of who I am...warts, idiosyncratic and crazy-making ways at times has assisted me in 'getting over myself' and thankfully I a much healthier and happy person.  David loves and lives in the moment and now I do too because he leads by example. We are loving and laughing through the ups and downs of life and embracing each moment of every day.






I've Been There my testimony of Hope is as much his project as mine because he has been there from beginning to end. He was a writer's widower during the 7 months it took me to write the book and has  listened to draft after draft of the copy and re-write after re-write.  Whenever I am squirreled  away in my Writer's Nook upstairs David cooks the meals, helps maintain the house and cares for our pet family. He's offered input, direction, suggestions and critiques, helped prepare the material for publication by formatting and paginating it. So even though I had some daunting and difficult passages earlier in life the universe saved the best for last and I  am  blessed every moment of life in what I share with my beloved David. I love you Sweetie now and always!




My favorite hymn...Amazing Grace




Whenever I listen or read the words to Amazing Grace I hug the words to my heart because by some unbelievable and amazing grace I made it through. I've Been There...A Testimony of Hope is about that...and more. The transformational changes I went through on my healing and spiritual journey led to health, healing, happiness and wholeness and I am humbled and grateful for the many blessings I now enjoy at an age when many of my peers are retiring, sick or dying. I believe in the power within Source-Centered and Amazing .Grace as we fully open ourselves to receive it. I have included two versions of hymn. The first one is by Celine Dion with images of Scotland out of tribute to all the Scots on my father's side of the family. The Cunningham clan have their roots steeped in Scotland and the images show parts of the country. 


 


These are the lyrics: John Newton (1725-1807)


Amazing Grace, how sweet the sound,
That saved a wretch like me.
I once was lost but now am found,
Was blind, but now I see.


T'was Grace that taught my heart to fear.
And Grace, my fears relieved.
How precious did that Grace appear
The hour I first believed.


Through many dangers, toils and snares
I have already come;
'Tis Grace that brought me safe thus far
and Grace will lead me home.


The Lord has promised good to me.
His word my hope secures.
He will my shield and portion be,
As long as life endures.


Yea, when this flesh and heart shall fail,
And mortal life shall cease,
I shall possess within the veil,
A life of joy and peace.

When we've been here ten thousand years
Bright shining as the sun.
We've no less days to sing God's praise
Than when we've first begun.

Amazing Grace, how sweet the sound,
That saved a wretch like me.
I once was lost but now am found,
Was blind, but now I see.


Yes, there were many periods in my life where I felt lost...but now I truly a found. I was blind...but now I see...and that Amazing Grace truly did save a wretch like me and I am living free and flying high and free within my spiritual emancipation.









I have always loved Whitney Houston's voice and music and this older rendition is a tribute to her and her the spiritual resonance in the rendition.


Celebrating A Brand New Day...Live in the 'now' and celebrate each moment of each brand new day!




I believe in life, love and hope. Even though we often forget to remember that all we have is this moment because life can change in an instant. As I age I embrace each bright, beautiful new day. It is filled with opportunity, potential and we can make it what we want it to be by changing our attitude and embracing life with all its jolting experiences.  The upbeat music with Diana Ross and Micheal Jackson are a toe-tapping and uplifting experience for me every time I watch and listen and I hope it is for you too! Celebrate life...it is too short not too!






Lyrics

Everybody look around
`Cause there`s a reason to rejoice you see
Everybody come out
And let`s commence to singing joyfully
Everybody look up
And feel the hope that we`ve been waiting for
Everybody`s glad
Because our silent fear and dread is gone

Freedom, you see, has got our hearts singing so joyfully
Just look about
You owe it to yourself to check it out
Can`t you feel a brand new day?
Can`t you feel a brand new day?
Can`t you feel a brand new day?
Can`t you feel a brand new day?

Everybody be glad,
because the sun is shining just for us.
Everybody wake up,
into the morning, into happiness.
Hello world
It`s like a different way of living now
And thank you world
We always knew that we`d be free somehow
In harmony
And show the world that we`ve got liberty
It`s such a change
For us to live so independently

Freedom, you see, has got our hearts singing so joyfully
Just look about
You owe it to yourself to check it out
Can`t you feel a brand new day?
Can`t you feel a brand new day?

Everybody be glad,
because the sun is shining just for us.
Everybody wake up,
into the morning, into happiness.
Hello world
It`s like a different way of living now
And thank you world
We always knew that we`d be free somehow
In harmony
And show the world that we`ve got liberty
It`s such a change
For us to live so independently

Freedom, you see, has got our hearts singing so joyfully
Just look about
You owe it to yourself to check it out
Can`t you feel a brand new day?
Can`t you feel a brand new day?
Can`t you feel a brand new day?
Can`t you feel a brand new day?







Don't Give Up...every moment of every day gives you a chance to create a fresh beginning




Both abundance and lack exist simultaneously in our lives, as parallel realities. It is always our conscious choice which secret garden we will tend… when we choose not to focus on what is missing from our lives but are grateful for the abundance that’s present – love, health, family, friends, work, the joys of nature and personal pursuits that bring us pleasure – the wasteland of illusion falls away and we experience heaven on earth."~Sarah Ban Breathnach ....."I do not fix problems. I fix my thinking. Then problems fix themselves."
~Louise Hay~



If you don't meet resistance with resistance, it dissipates dramatically. It just softens. Try it! Next time somebody says to you, "I'm right, and you're wrong," say, "Pfftt, you're right. You are right. You're right." And mean it. In other words, don't mock them. Don't be sarcastic. "You're right." And then watch how, all of a sudden, their legs almost go right out from under them. They don't have the energy to blast you, because you just took the fuel away from the fire.