I've Been There (IBT) A Testimony Of Hope: The Art of Living is a process of letting go and holding on

Welcome to the Blog for my book I've Been There...My Testimony of Hope.

This blog is a mixed bag, no holds barred mix of back stories, information, updates, and connection links to I've Been There...A Testimony of Hope. It has links inks.

My hubs David and I are committed to sharing CHANGE MAKING COMMUNICATIONS to inspire life-affirming changes at any age and stage of life. promote the idea that it is never too late to be great and to live our very best lives.

We welcome and appreciate all supporters. Together we are stronger, and that is the message of I've Been There...A Testimony of Hope.

The who, what, when and why of my book

For years prior to writing this book, my hubs David, clients and friends urged me to share the who, what, when and why of where I was and where I am today.

Oddly it was a quote that framed things in a way that made sense to share my healing and spiritual path from the "there to my healthy, happy here. The essence of the quote was, "those who have walked through the fires and became a Phoenix have a moral responsibility to give the lessons back to give other their transformational wings."

The girl in the shadows on the book jacket was me back "there.| " I wrote this book as a testimony of hope and chronicale how my scars were turned into Lodestars that guide my and others I share our Change Making ideas with today. My book is an offering and affirmation that it is not what happens to us that defines who and what we become. Instead, it is how we respond and choose to do about it.

Bright blessings on your own journey,

Raia

Coralie "Raia" Darsey-Malloy

Friday, April 27, 2012

The Art of Living is a process of letting go and holding on

All the art of living lies in a fine mingling of letting go and holding on.
-- Havelock Ellis

I've'Been There...A Testimony of Hope has a lot of recurring themes about being able to let go. I am going through another phase of that as I get closer to the launch date of the book with each passing day. There has been a lot of time, energy, revisiting and releasing each time I have editing the book and re-read it. When I think of handing it over to the publisher and then giving it over to Source to outwork where it goes from that point it is also calling me to "let go and let God/Goddess" take it whee its meant to go.

Letting is one of the hardest lessons in life. In life, there's many things that we have to learn to let go. We have to let go of situations, things, memories, people and even ourselves. It's easy to form an attachment to people and things. When you've formed an attachment to people and things, it can be a very painful experience and feeling when you realized that it's time to let go. Even the mere thought of not having that person or thing in your life just squeezes your heart in pain. However, there are times where you or that person has changed to the extent that it's necessary to let go of the relationship or friendship, so that each of you can fulfill your life path.

When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.
-- Lao Tzu

Letting go of your past and memories are also extremely hard. Even though old memories can be tormenting, yet you might hold on to the past and refuse to move forward. However, by refusing to let go of the painful past, it'll serve as a roadblock to love.Releasing the old self opens the way for a new you emerge can be one of the scariest experiences in your life. But by leaving behind your old self and taking a leap of faith into the unknown, it might just reveal what you are truly capable of becoming. With the depth of what we share at Fresh Beginnings I know that each of us are varying stages of having to change things we may be reluctant to do...or let go of people and events that are no longer healthy. I wanted to share these ideas with you as I finish up the final edits and prepare to let the book go to its natural completion.

Let go. Why do you cling to pain? There is nothing you can do about the wrongs of yesterday. It is not yours to judge. Why hold on to the very thing which keeps you from hope and love?
-- Leo Buscaglia