Welcome to the Blog for my book I've Been There...My Testimony of Hope.

This blog is a mixed bag, no holds barred mix of back stories, information, updates, and connection links to I've Been There...A Testimony of Hope. It has links inks.

My hubs David and I are committed to sharing CHANGE MAKING COMMUNICATIONS to inspire life-affirming changes at any age and stage of life. promote the idea that it is never too late to be great and to live our very best lives.

We welcome and appreciate all supporters. Together we are stronger, and that is the message of I've Been There...A Testimony of Hope.

The who, what, when and why of my book

For years prior to writing this book, my hubs David, clients and friends urged me to share the who, what, when and why of where I was and where I am today.

Oddly it was a quote that framed things in a way that made sense to share my healing and spiritual path from the "there to my healthy, happy here. The essence of the quote was, "those who have walked through the fires and became a Phoenix have a moral responsibility to give the lessons back to give other their transformational wings."

The girl in the shadows on the book jacket was me back "there.| " I wrote this book as a testimony of hope and chronicale how my scars were turned into Lodestars that guide my and others I share our Change Making ideas with today. My book is an offering and affirmation that it is not what happens to us that defines who and what we become. Instead, it is how we respond and choose to do about it.

Bright blessings on your own journey,
Raia

Coralie "Raia" Darsey-Malloy

About Me

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First up...I wear many hats, literally and figuratively. I write professionally and along with my memoir I've Been There...My Testimony of Hope I have written a variety of books on healthy dynamic living. My hubs David and I co own and co-direct Change Making Communications . We share ideas through blogs, Face Book Groups, You Tube, free lance writing, presentations inprivate and group facilitation dynamic living live coaching. David and I have been partners in life and business since 1990. We have no intention of retiring because we know that it is only work if you don't life it and we love what we do.

Tuesday, June 21, 2011

Change, nostalgia, feeling left behind



I feel kind of sad that some part of me is going to go away... of course it's not really me, but it's something that's been with me all my life.. and sometimes I even feel sad for this poor little body that one day, it will be no more ... just now I cried because I was thinking about these things..

I guess it's attachment to the body and the body-mind. But there's a sadness there.... I guess I'll just be with my feelings and not reject them in any way.. lately I've been knowing that I want to invite absolute surrender, again and again.. just when the thought of it comes to me.. surrender to all of this that I don't really know or understand.. surrender to all my dreams and wishes of the heart and in this, surrendering to all that is. There's such deep beauty and vulnerability


If you have ever been the only one in a large group, say a class in high school, to defend someone or something that you know is wrong, then you are what we consider a hero. Standing up for what you believe in at all times is not only one of the most admirable traits a person can possess, but is also ultimately one of the most self fulfilling ones. Standing up for what you believe in requires a great amount of courage first and foremost, but also requires a person to be knowledgeable on the subject that they are standing up for.

Many times when we may be standing up for a belief, idea or opinion the belief we share may not be the most popular belief and will require us to be relentless in our approach, unwavering despite whatever the consequences may be. Doing what's right requires a person with a strong heart, so if you know you will compromise easily with your opposition, you may not want to try. Remember to always go with your gut, when you see something that you feel is absolutely wrong, do what your conscience is telling you that you should do, you never know who or what you may be helping!






Sharing ideas and a video about how people are in our lives for a reason, season or lifetime.

When I decided to write my book I found the process challenging and therapeutic. When I went back over the time-lines in my life I went through some stages of grief that I had not worked through when I was in the circumstances. It is never easy to say goodbye, or accept that there are people in our lives for a reason, season or lifetime.


I've Been There is a testimony of hope because it shows that even thought we all undergo hardships, breakups, and narcissistic wounds, which shatter the flattering image that we had of ourselves. The process is positive in the end because it assists us in in discovering that often we and those we love are not who we thought and the loss of a cherished pleasure is not necessarily the loss of true happiness and well-being. The reasons and season relationships are often more frequent than the lifetime ones and this video serves as a wonderful reminder of that reality.