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This blog is a mixed bag, no holds barred mix of back stories, information, updates, and connection links to I've Been There...A Testimony of Hope. It has links inks.

My hubs David and I are committed to sharing CHANGE MAKING COMMUNICATIONS to inspire life-affirming changes at any age and stage of life. promote the idea that it is never too late to be great and to live our very best lives.

We welcome and appreciate all supporters. Together we are stronger, and that is the message of I've Been There...A Testimony of Hope.

The who, what, when and why of my book

For years prior to writing this book, my hubs David, clients and friends urged me to share the who, what, when and why of where I was and where I am today.

Oddly it was a quote that framed things in a way that made sense to share my healing and spiritual path from the "there to my healthy, happy here. The essence of the quote was, "those who have walked through the fires and became a Phoenix have a moral responsibility to give the lessons back to give other their transformational wings."

The girl in the shadows on the book jacket was me back "there.| " I wrote this book as a testimony of hope and chronicale how my scars were turned into Lodestars that guide my and others I share our Change Making ideas with today. My book is an offering and affirmation that it is not what happens to us that defines who and what we become. Instead, it is how we respond and choose to do about it.

Bright blessings on your own journey,
Raia

Coralie "Raia" Darsey-Malloy

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First up...I wear many hats, literally and figuratively. I write professionally and along with my memoir I've Been There...My Testimony of Hope I have written a variety of books on healthy dynamic living. My hubs David and I co own and co-direct Change Making Communications . We share ideas through blogs, Face Book Groups, You Tube, free lance writing, presentations inprivate and group facilitation dynamic living live coaching. David and I have been partners in life and business since 1990. We have no intention of retiring because we know that it is only work if you don't life it and we love what we do.

Saturday, April 21, 2012

Transformation On Butterfly Wings

When I was in my early teens, I loved spending my time in nature and observing everything around me. Often I would go into the woods and just sit as still as I could. Gradually, the birds, squirrels, and chipmunks would return busying themselves looking for food and on guard for any danger.
While sitting against a tree, I noticed a black shiny cocoon. I picked it up and studied it’s features and I decided to take it home with me. I placed it in my jacket pocket and when I got home I put it in a small jar. I checked on the cocoon daily.
Emerging from the cocoon.


One day, I noticed a small opening in the shell and I could see the insect inside peeking out the opening. Over several hour periods, the insect had struggled but had made little progress making its way through the opening.
I thought I should help the butterfly because it was having such a hard time. So I took out my pen-knife and gently made the opening larger, so the butterfly could easily leave the cocoon.
I felt full of pride having helped the butterfly.

The butterfly emerged unsteadily on its legs, with a swollen body and small shriveled wings.
I continued watching the insect, expecting it would transform miraculously into a butterfly. It did not! It crawled unsteadily around on the ground with its distorted body and small shriveled wings.
I couldn’t understand why it didn’t transform into a butterfly.

My grandmother was visiting that day and came out to see what I was doing. He looked and saw the cocoon and saw the insect crawling around on the workbench.
I asked him what he knew about butterflies, and I told him what I had done to help the butterfly. He looked at me and shook his head. He said that insect would never fly. He was destined to only be able to crawl on the ground.

Grandpa told me that in my kindness to help the butterfly, I had actually failed to understand that the cocoon actually transforms the crawling insect into a butterfly.
The small opening and the struggle to leave the cocoon forces fluid from the swollen body and into the wings so it can take flight upon leaving the cocoon.

Grandpa explained my intentions were good, trying to help a struggling creature, but he also explained:
Sometimes in life, the struggle is exactly what is needed in our lives for personal growth. Valuable lesson learned. Growth. accepting what cannot be changed. 








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