I've Been There (IBT) A Testimony Of Hope: Letting Go, Moving Forward

Welcome to the Blog for my book I've Been There...My Testimony of Hope.

This blog is a mixed bag, no holds barred mix of back stories, information, updates, and connection links to I've Been There...A Testimony of Hope. It has links inks.

My hubs David and I are committed to sharing CHANGE MAKING COMMUNICATIONS to inspire life-affirming changes at any age and stage of life. promote the idea that it is never too late to be great and to live our very best lives.

We welcome and appreciate all supporters. Together we are stronger, and that is the message of I've Been There...A Testimony of Hope.

The who, what, when and why of my book

For years prior to writing this book, my hubs David, clients and friends urged me to share the who, what, when and why of where I was and where I am today.

Oddly it was a quote that framed things in a way that made sense to share my healing and spiritual path from the "there to my healthy, happy here. The essence of the quote was, "those who have walked through the fires and became a Phoenix have a moral responsibility to give the lessons back to give other their transformational wings."

The girl in the shadows on the book jacket was me back "there.| " I wrote this book as a testimony of hope and chronicale how my scars were turned into Lodestars that guide my and others I share our Change Making ideas with today. My book is an offering and affirmation that it is not what happens to us that defines who and what we become. Instead, it is how we respond and choose to do about it.

Bright blessings on your own journey,

Raia

Coralie "Raia" Darsey-Malloy

Friday, April 20, 2018

Letting Go, Moving Forward

The art of living lies in a fine mingling of letting go and holding on.

-- Havelock Ellis

I’ve Been There...A Testimony of Hope has themes about growth through releasing. There has been a lot of time, energy preparing the material and my mindset to the raw events of the past and sharing it with others. Detaching from outcomes is another form of letting go and trusting the process.

The art of non-attachment is a tough lesson to master. Some events force us to release our hold on people, events, and possessions. Then there are situations, memories, parts of self that cease to hold a purpose or are holding us back.

Withing the human condition we tend to form an attachment to people and things. Attachments to people and things, it can experience and be feeling when you realized that it's time to let go. Even the mere thought of not having that person or thing in your life squeezes the heart in pain.

Coming to terms with the reality that either people, events or situations change to the extent that it's necessary to let go and move on. Those who do not grow with us frequently grow apart. Letting go of the past associations are daunting. memories are replayed and holding on to the past prevents moving forward.

Letting go creates a void and the universe abhors them. Eventually, it will fill it or we can choose to see it as an opportunity to focus on more of what we want rather than living in the past. The past is done, it cannot be changed so living back there stalls growth and transformation.

Leaving the old behind requires a leap of faith into uncharted territory and that is the daunting aspect of change. It is stated eloquently in the quote by Lao Tzu. When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.

And -- Leo Buscaglia Let go. Why do you cling to pain? There is nothing you can do about the wrongs of yesterday. It is not yours to judge. Why hold on to the very thing which keeps you from hope and love?