I've Been There (IBT) A Testimony Of Hope: Re-framing the idea of failures..there aren't any if you learn something

Welcome to the Blog for my book I've Been There...My Testimony of Hope.

This blog is a mixed bag, no holds barred mix of back stories, information, updates, and connection links to I've Been There...A Testimony of Hope. It has links inks.

My hubs David and I are committed to sharing CHANGE MAKING COMMUNICATIONS to inspire life-affirming changes at any age and stage of life. promote the idea that it is never too late to be great and to live our very best lives.

We welcome and appreciate all supporters. Together we are stronger, and that is the message of I've Been There...A Testimony of Hope.

The who, what, when and why of my book

For years prior to writing this book, my hubs David, clients and friends urged me to share the who, what, when and why of where I was and where I am today.

Oddly it was a quote that framed things in a way that made sense to share my healing and spiritual path from the "there to my healthy, happy here. The essence of the quote was, "those who have walked through the fires and became a Phoenix have a moral responsibility to give the lessons back to give other their transformational wings."

The girl in the shadows on the book jacket was me back "there.| " I wrote this book as a testimony of hope and chronicale how my scars were turned into Lodestars that guide my and others I share our Change Making ideas with today. My book is an offering and affirmation that it is not what happens to us that defines who and what we become. Instead, it is how we respond and choose to do about it.

Bright blessings on your own journey,

Raia

Coralie "Raia" Darsey-Malloy

Sunday, March 6, 2011

Re-framing the idea of failures..there aren't any if you learn something

In our counseling sessions with clients many of them admit to living in fear. One of the big ones is fear of failure.In being 'there' and coming to 'here' I eventually developed the understand that there are no failures if the experiences teach us something. Many of the people who came up with great ideas had to work through numerous setbacks and what some might call "failures" before they turned their dreams into reality.

The video below shares how many famous people worked through their challenges and continued along their paths until they got where they wanted to be. Re-framing failures sets us free to live without regrets. Knowing that everything that did or did not work our provided experiential learning and shaped who we are today liberates our thinking so we can live without fear of "failure."

May each path you choose bring promises
of the things you’re dreaming of
May your world be filled with Peace and Joy
and Your ❤Heart❤ be filled with Love
Peace Love Respect

~The Dreamers ~

They are the architects of greatness.
Their vision lies within their souls.
They never see the mirages of Fact, but peer beyond
the veils and mists of doubt and pierce
the walls of unborn Time.

Makers of empire, they have fought for
bigger things than crowns and higher
seats than thrones.

They are the Argonauts, the seekers of the priceless fleece--The Truth.
Through all the ages they have heard the voice of destiny call to them from the unknown vasts.

Their brains have wrought all human miracles.
In lace of stone their spires stab the Old World's skies and
with their golden crosses kiss the sun.

They are the chosen few the blazers of the way, who never wear a doubt's bandage on their eyes.
Who starve and chill and hurt, but hold to courage and
to hope, because they know that there is always proof of truth for them who try ~ that only cowardice and lack of faith can keep the seeker from his chosen goal, but if his heart be strong and if he dream enough and dream it hard enough, he can attain, no matter where men failed before.

Walls crumble and the empires fall.
The tidal wave sweeps from the sea and tears a fortress from its rocks.
The rotting nations drop off Time's bough, and only things the dreamers make live on.

They are the Eternal Conquerors their vassals are the years.

♥ ♥ ♥ ~ Herbert Kaufmam ~ ♥ ♥ ♥